What if no one cares about me

Good luck and much love. Please know that you DO make a difference in this world…. I just recently moved away from home and started college. It is the end of my first semester away at college and I feel very very lonely, anxious, and depressed. Being in a whole new surrounding with new people makes me anxious and also makes me realize that I have had this inner voice my whole life. I would say that your greatness is hard for the average person to be around, and, although unintentional, you surface their deepest insecurities.

When they compare themselves to you, they feel bad about themselves, which makes you feel bad about yourself. Makes sense? Thank you for your kinds thought however I am afraid those are not true. I have tried every kind of literature and outogussestion but I feel nothing is helping me how I feel. Again, I would like to thank you for your thoughts and hope one day I will figure out what is wrong with me.

Accepting yourself as normal human who like to be part of human community, there is no shame in showing interests, even when it misfires. You know the nerdy king, the engineers and computer scientists. There are lots of people who gravitate toward each other for reasons that may be mysterious even to themselves. Lastly, check out with a psychologist if you can afford it for a few hundred bucks, if it really bothers you why you are seen invisible.

I really appreciate your advise and recommendations. I think you are absolutely right about me trying hard. I try hard meeting people, I try hard pleasing people. Thanks again. You may look so confident that people are afraid to approach you. Could this be the case? Annie: I was you. You must dedicate your life to change. Inner work comes first. You are not the opinions of others. Happiness is mostly a choice.

There are endless battles to be fought, and many people quit after just losing one. Persistence is key. You can reprogram habits and better perspectives into your mind within several months.

When I had enough, and dedicated every single moment, right now, to being in control of my thoughts and emotions, I started seeing real results. My depression and social anxiety is normal now. I am much healthier in ever aspect because I do the work to get that health.. I welcome challenges. I found peace and self-love.. I am still invisible. I never fit in with those people anyway. But I am a human like everyone else, and although introverted, I do enjoy the company of others at times.

That is normal. So I understand the frustration. Human beings get really out of whack when it comes to seeking social worth, but in the end, as valuable as it can be, it is still an illusion. You decide your worth. You must learn to be a warrior of life and enjoy it, and you can, but you have to dig deep down and do a lot of introspection.

Sounds like you put a lot of your worth into the opinions of your parents, comparing yourself to your brother, and mixed with a lot of real or delusion when it comes to the opinions of others. Understand deep in your soul: you are not the opinions of others. Put on a happy song, think back to one of your happier times..

Use it every day for the rest of your life. Thank you so much John! I deeply appreciate your thoughts and it made a lots of sense to me. Thanks again! The hole in your life might be filled with His love. I love the Lord. Amen Mike! God Bless you for saying that.

I feel that everyone I am around family included tries to bring me down. I have constant hate from my family. They call me lazy, selfish, etc. You are not the opinions of others, even your parents. I really relate to it. But I just dont know how to keep that momentum going once it starts to work. Eventually my mood just shifts and throws me off track, and i spiral down again.

I feel like people tend to seek friendship with other who have a crowd around them. My loneliness is working against my chances finding friends. Oh hi Fred , I understand , it really sucks hey , really hurts. Makes it easier to tell the truth of how things are not so good for us , instead of pretending. Thanks again for your touching post , Kim. Im actually surprised how many people feel the way i do.

Once in a while i feel good for no reason, and i just accept it and savor those moments. I look forward to reading more and learning how to silence the negative self hatred. Remember how people at school would gather around a victim and bully them? How everyone snubbed the unfortunate person because it was uncool to befriend them?

Well these same people grew up to become the adults of today. They carried the same nagative values into adult life, the same mental idea that it is okay to tread on other people to remain popular, to reach the top — and that is exactly where they are! I was one of those victims. Take a step back and consider modern behaviour in adults today: A spoiled generation who care little about everything from environmental destruction to the well-being of their own children.

A throw-away age that also includes people. In fact, I think they should change. No man wants to stay with me, despite all my efforts. They seem to b crazy about me and then all of a sudden.. The wicked thought am going to die lonely and afraid keeps reoccurring!! This article does an admirably accurate job describing how awful this experience feels emotionally. To me, this makes a lot more organic sense than doing battle with ourselves. Most of us have had enough of that— and these aspects are trying to help us, not hurt us.

My mother died 3 years ago and I have no contact with my father. I have very few friends and am becoming so lonely I just wish life would hurry up and end. I work full time and even though my manager and team mates always praise me I feel excluded and different and the more lonely I become the more difficult I find it to talk to people. I spend most weekends alone in the house. I have borderline personality disorder and the voice has completely taken over. It keeps me inside a lot of the time and I have no opportunities to make friends.

Hope you get to come and read this. Hope you and the baby is going well. What caught my attention most about your comment is when you talk about losing your personality because I have been there.

I suffer from loneliness as well but feel that I am getting better over the years. I am getting much better but still battle with these emotions and feel that God Is showing me that I will never truly find happiness trying to relate to people. I have lived by myself twice and which people and in all my cases this feeling of loneliness never died. Now I am about to live on my own again and I am prepping myself to deal with the thoughts of loneliness that I know that I will feel.

Just recently after all these years of my father not being in my life I just found out that he committed suicide a couple of years back and it has also made me deal with myself a lot because many years of negative through will take you to a very bad place. I refuses to let the devil get in that much and it will always start with people. While I do believe that we can find truly loving worth while people and connections in life it can take a life time and depends on the quality of selection. I am still healing and moving foward and still a lot if defeating thoughts of not being liked or feeling alone but I do put more effect of talking myself off of the ledge.

I do have a partner but I am not always happy with the attention or quality time that I am getting and still contemplate about letting the relationship go. My of these concepts of live and connecting with people that we learn are illusions that turn into delusions over all it is about balance. I have had the same experiences in life.

At work people will talk about going to happy hour right in front of me and never invite me! Right now my boss only included my coworker in meetings, planning, and we do the same exact job. I recently found out that I am on the autism spectrum, high functioning, what used to be called asberger syndrome.

I have a heck of a time connecting with people. I too noticed that some people who no one likes because of bad behavior are included. I think it is because while they r annoying, they are real, alive, and connecting with others. Knowing there is a reason for my angst has helped. Wow…and I thought I was possesed or that I had a sign on my back that warned others to stay away from me! Well I feel better now knowing that all you good and sensitive people are senceing what I am.

For years I have made myself available for errands and household repairs only to discover that my suspicions were correct.. I WAS being snubbed. So I discovered that my inner self respect was being replaced by an inner being that was insecure and lonely. Make no mistake…there are really mean people in this world that can really mess with your head, and these types travel in groups.

My so-called girlfriend must be really insecure if she must team up with her control freak siblings in badmouthing me behind my back. It hurt…a lot. For what its worth…Try with all your loving might to see yourself through the eyes of someone who loves you and respects you…that person is first and foremost YOU.

I doubted myself and really believed that I was less valuable than those around me. I cried. I withdrew. My mind went to dark and self destructive places. As a Christian I prayed but I could not feel better about being me. Slowly the haze started to clear as I learned to not feel responsible for the captious comments of others. What I do now is consider the source of my hurt feelings.

I am responsible for alot of them but not all, and I am careful of what I take serious when I hear vicious rumors. Thanks for sharing…You are all in my prayers. Jane…you are an awesome person! Hugs and God Bless You! No one wants me around including my wife of 25 yrs. And many of us Good men really Hate being Single too. I m pursuing degree course i dnt like to meet relatives. It make me feel they will ask questions or what they want. I feel so i think because i m nt beautiful nt yet got a degree i older than my freinds.

It makes me feel so much better to see that so many other good people have had similar experiences. I do want to throw in that if you are friendly and nice and positive and people still seem to avoid inviting you in, it may be the very fact that you feel you need so much for them to like you. People sense that and they may become afraid, consciously or not, that if they give you reassurance you will cling to them and demand more and more, which is very daunting if they are already having to work hard to maintain their own confidence.

Then all will be attracted to you! I am so apparently UGLY that those men not only felt the need to laugh at me whilst looking at me, but point at me too whilst saying nasty, hurtful things. Makeup is my mask. If only I were even slightly pretty, maybe then I could start to get close to someone to stand the chance of them seeing me for me.

Faye, I have felt attracted to women who I thought were ugly when I first met them months, days, hours before the attraction started. I feel soo unwanted unloved and useless my husband has an OCD problem he fights with me everyday over household chores, he makes me feel like i can do nothing right.

I really try to hard to be a good wife give him all the love and support. When i try show him affection he always pulls away. Because of this i feel soo lonely, unwanted and useless.

Before we were married everything was perfect he was loving and caring. I thought i have found someone that would make me feel special, loved. All my life i felt unwanted useless ugly and worthless and after being married all those feelings have crept back.

We argue all the time its physically draining. I am kidding myself thinking our marriage can be salvaged? I feel so isolated. Your relationship sounds alot like the last one I was in. Your husband is abusive. No one should have to fight all the time. When you feel like you never do anything right. He is gaslighting you. Please read about it,find a support group and get out. Sarah is right…this sounds like an abusive relationship. Look up Passive-Aggressive. Please go do research, find out about the cycle of abuse and abuse techniques of the narcissist.

Its all a trick. Its all designed to control and manipulate u, even the love and promises of forevermore. I lost everything to a marriage like this including my loved ones, my health, my mind, and my ability to work.

U have to read up on this, watch YouTube videos, educate yourself because this is almost certainly what you are experiencing. They will not get better. They will get worse. Get educated and get out. A lot of what I have read in the lead article I can definitely relate to, the self-doubt and circumstances under which it arises. I decided to keep quiet.

In short, I had and still am, a loner. I suppose I will always be as I am, maybe the feeling I have about myself are ingrained just too deep. Its hard to be liked. I try to put myself to be outgoing and coolish but i feel likei get hurt and treated badly so i hide. My mom, dad, with the rest of my family dont like me its all pretend happy when they see me but they all hate me even at work im not noticed.

Im only noticed when someone tries to use me which is sad depressing. I really am not sure what to do next. I moved back home after a long term illness and on top of it all I was attacked and put into a coma for about 6 weeks. This got really bad to the point where I was even violently attacked.

The only thing I ever wanted was to be left alone. Before I got better from my sickness I decided to start working from home and before I knew I was in my own office and growing a business. I knew that the next attack would be from my own family. Because apart from the people who work for me, there are no other humans who I come into contact with.

I have just discovered that my own mother has been spreading the vilest rumors about me.. My parents were abusive when I was a child. My father was the physical one while she would just use mental abuse. It is like the more successful I am in my business the harder she has tried to break me mentally. And usually she uses my business as a target for her attacks.. Which is ridiculous as she knows nothing about it. Kinda like the cleaning lady telling the MD that his or her company is a failure.

I think she wishes that it would fail. She has gone out of the country and has been phoning me to taunt and laugh at me over the Christmas and New Year. And when I called her back to ask her not to call me again she pretended to not know what I was talking about. Which is specifically her problem. You cannot resolve anything with someone who refuses to talk to you.

So she has clearly been trying to cultivate an abusive relationship towards me, while creating an impression to others that I have been abusive towards her. I guess my long term nighbours would know better as they listened to a lot of what I had to go through.

What do I do about the neighbors as well as her? And what is going on here? Does anyone see a pattern? Get away from these sick crazy people. Going to church and trying to please God is the only person I try to please. I got on this site Bc my granddaughter is going through a hard time at school at the age of But I tell her love God love your self. The one person that helps me all the time is Dr Carolina leaf look her up on you tube she really has help me so much!

I have also learn to forgive fast…. You sound like a great , loving person! God blessed. Has anyone thought if everyone here became friends how many friends we would all have! Just saying.. I was thinking the same thing Lou! I may do it today as reading all the comments has been powerfully insightful and helpful and tear-jerking and heart-warming! And it seems like you have no answer for me, just like everyone else.

It is so much like how i feel but alittle wore. Yes it does. Life is so hard right now! This article described my problems perfectly I feel Alot better now.. Im gonna try and fight this inner voice , i know its gonna be hard.

I completely agree with you this article is great! Fight your inner voices! You can do it! Lovely article. I have never had a friend. I take that back. One for a free babysitter, and one so they could get gas money from me. Sometimes no one likes someone. I want a girlfriend.

The women who are just like me in personality type want a white guy with a big beard and tattoos. I suggest you move to where there is a critical mass of white hipster people, like Portland, and start hanging out at the places that appeal to you. I used to live there and I know there are plenty of women of all colors who would date a black guy with your tastes.

Hot, and fun. On the other hand, Brooklyn has the same scene, but people tend to hang out in their own racial groups in NYC. A gross generalization I know, but I used to live there too. Now I live back in Oregon, and a friend of mine, a black guy, just uploaded a playlist of Pink Floyd and punk rock to the cloud for his students.

Haha, what? Turns out, it happens. This article touched briefly on how I feel. The loneliness and worthlessness I feel, is all my own doing; I let myself get this way. I avoid mirrors as much as possible and rarely go out without make-up on because of my acne.

One thing i understood no one can change their destiny. You just cant make others care for you and like you or love you unconditionally from heart…you may be most brightest generous charming successful but you cant make others like you…being liked and loved is a gift ,it cant be achieved.

And what about many of us good men that are still single that really wanted a wife and family too? My Parents are dead , my brothers are dead , my partner is dead. I have no children. All my extended family are dead apart from a few distant cousins who are strangers. I am only 48 but entirely left alone. Drifted from old friends. Completely alone. I have a roof over my head until the unemployment benefits run out. Hey, I was tired too! Love to you. I have though about death more consistently almost daily these past 3 years.

Nothing gets better — it only gets worse. Blame my faith they always say. I hear squat! I cannot reject the reality of Him. Its about Him dealing with other more important people. I am nothing. I feel worthless. The world closes its eyes to it. So now, how do I foresee my future? I have nothing to offer. There is no justice. Everyone has betrayed me in some for or another maybe I did too unknowlingly. Why the hell are we on this earth?

Some, even seem to think its our thinking. I should hope? Hope for what? My husband left me with nothing for greener pastures i asked for nothing, even though he took half of what I had when he had thousands worth of equipment. Yes, I feel bitter. Somedays I feel grateful — yes roof over my head for now , safe from crime today , and food on my table yes tin food is still food — not brain food, but ja.

All my dreams are gone and yes I had some besides the married with children not that that is not admirable. Thank you. I am in absolute horror at the current situation in South Africa, which admittedly, I was completely unaware of until reading your post which sparked my curiosity and inspired additional research. So, thank you for opening my eyes to something so important that is obviously flying under the radar of mainstream media. I think it is only natural to feel as low as you probably do, given your current environment and the worry you face each day.

Do you have family? Anyone outside of South Africa? Do you have any resources or friends that accompany you? What do you know of Simon Roche? I believe that if given the chance to remove yourself from such an environment, you would experience a great surge of relief that may help remove the clouds from your mind.

I believe those clouds are preventing you from feeling hopeful. I understand that there is no way I can comprehend what life is like for you in South Africa no matter how many articles I read, but please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers and although a stranger, I want nothing more for you than happiness and freedom from hell on earth. There is no magic bullet to fix our pain oh how I wish it were.

Nevertheless something good is going to come out of all of this. Hello Alice, i really do empthasize with all of what you have mentioned, you seem like a very intelligent being and you are not unusual for feeling the way you do about life in general.

I was in a relationship for 14 years, I invested all myself in , i have 2 kids , I gave up on that relationship because my kids Father was cheating a lot on me , I felt maybe he never loved me. He was never satisfied he will alwqys come up with some lies , so i left him 6 almost 7 years ago, i could never restart my life engine since.

I dont know anymore …i tried to go one day at a time hoping on Jesus to heal me so I can forget him.. Hello Annie, i want to congratulate you, i really do, i think you should be so proud that you had the courage to leave that man, he was not worth it, not at all, you deserve better!

If he could cheat it shows he is a lost man and needs to find himself and not other woman! No matter what happens do not resort to methods like self harm because it only distracts you from your pain, does NOT alleviate it.

I know how you feel. I was with my wife 27 years , I love her and still do. She left with my daughter and my hearth was broken and to the point I did want to live. I was injury in line of duty as and EMT, no doctor could help me but for drugs.

I got hooked and could stop. I needed her more then ever. Everyone that I thought that were my friend turn there backs on me side with her. That was 14 years ago, I still love her to this day. She was my best friend , solmate , and lover. She move on remarried and got even more problems. She left him 2 times and every time I hope she would come back, I have this little hope in the back of my mind that she would and make us a hole family again.

I have missed so much of life with her and my daughter who she told her that its greener on the other side. I have been told no chance, I still hope and pray. I call it true love. I have friends who has help me but alot of times I am on my own , even gave up on God one time.

I tried asking other women out but it turn out to be nothing. I believe true love is what is between to people that were meant to be with each other. I hope the best for you I still destroying myself over her. She still hates me I still love her. I even ask her to run me over and stop my broken heart pain, I have no more heart left to be broken.

Hi Todd, i honestly can say i really do understand you. So thankful to read the sharing about loneliness and unwanted feelings. My parents got divorced when i was 6. I still remembered my mom rejected me by giving me away to be wt my dad to stay wt her new wife and her children from previous marriage.

I was bullied mentally, physically and sexually from my step Siblings including molested by my own father. Until today i Harbour bitterness to my mom. She never apologised for given me away and caused me so much pain. Now i am married to a good man and have my own child.

My problems is i hate and resent everyone. I feel so lonely and afraid. I feel every one including my husband just want to be around me because all the favour that i can offer and not really because they want me.

Most of the time i feel nobody like me or want me. I have to say, i also feel like i do not trust anyone, like people only want me around for something i might have to offer them, especially men, as i have been hurt before and now i do not trust them and think they only want a woman for their own satisfaction…obviously the wrong men are in my life, i am single but a particular man i like him as a friend but he always tries to push it to more than that and i know he has a woman at home, she is not interested in him so i feel he does not want to be my friend but just wants to know me for his own satisfaction.

I so needed this this morning! I am a believer and have been beating myself up for these feelings of loneliness and anger. It hurts. Actually I just wish my husband got me but he is so lost and alone himself. I finally shutdown and withdraw. I feel like I am failing as a wife and even though I am married I still feel alone. I have 5 kids and I feel alone.

I think I maybe suffering from depression as well. I am 33 years old and I feel as though I have not really lived. I have given my self to being a mom which I am okay at and a wife which I feel like I have failed based on the tension between my spouse and I. I hope that you find a way to cope as I am looking for ways to do so myself I feel that I am to young for this but I guess not young enough. Your not alone find ways and things to help you out of this funk and follow through on them.

If you can find a support group, write, read, sing, we are never really alone , just look for others like yourself as believe me you will be surprised.

I moved away from my home state bc I needed to get away from things that were distracting me , drugs weed only , alcohol and men. I take care of my dog and I work and pay bills and then I work more bc I cant afford my bills. I dont talk to my twin sister much bc she doesnt seem to want to talk to me. And then I feel selfish for wanting her time when I know shes busy with a new marriage and the navy.

Everyone is just so busy with their own lives how dare i feel the need for their time. I feel better having gotten this all out. I donf have family, friends, or a career worth anything. I am in the same lonely situation. I have no one.

Reading what you wrote sounded exactly like me. I would love to join and talk…. I have no one else in my life and I keep accepting bad behavior from men. I am in a very similar situation.

Three years ago I got married to a Marine and moved 7 hours away from my hometown. Not even a full year into the marriage, he began lying and cheating so I filed for divorce. Hello Brooke and to everyone out there! Its a hard world to decipher, i know, but we must move on and try to be happy for something in our lives. Lots of love. My husband is good for me in so many ways but intelectually we are not on the same level and that makes me feel lonely in our marriage. On top of that I made the decision to become muslim just before I met my muslim husband five years ago.

A few months into our marriage I realised that I made a big mistake. I eventually told him I no longer want to be muslim. I speak to God a lot. I know that this will please me immensely and I think I will then feel less lonely. Growing up my childhood was a bit shaky!! My mother always did the best should could for my brother and myself!! However I never had a father and I never got to meet him.

I believe perhaps most of my problems in my life could stem from this. We always lived with relatives and my cousins would always pick on me!! I was a skinny girl however when I grew up I started into fitness! Weight training and teaching aerobics made me strong in my body and my mind!! I just need to get my head out of my butt and consider myself lucky!! Sounds good but easier said than done for sure!!!

This helped writing it down and I think I may keep a journal!! God Bless each one and hopefully we can help each other!!! Wow I like the way u think about life. I wish to have a brave mind set like u , like have believe in god, problem are a part of our life we only have to do is move on. And we are facing all the bad thing and bad luck So my only Q is why only good people always suffer?

It is exhausting listening to her constantly but she is ill, so now I see her once a week still supportive but not every day which was draining me. My loneliness stems from two things: I was enormously peer-abused as a child, so school was painful, and my home life was terrible also. The second thing that causes my loneliness: I am or WAS a born giver.

I also have no one to turn to. One family member in particular spent about 20 years bleeding me dry of all my resources as well as my compassion; she even stole thousands of dollars from me when I needed it most; and now I have nothing left in the way of resources, compassion, or ability to help myself, let alone others anymore.

I still have many dreams, but no ability to dream them let alone put them into action. I feel totally bled out.

I totally understand how you feel. I was always and still am always there for others but they are never there for me. Please stop thinking about taking your own life. I know that, at your age, and possibly going through menopause, can cause you great anguish and loneliness.

Try to find an outlet — write, paint, do anything creative. Wishing you all the best and sending you lots of blessings. Take care of yourself. Roger, thank you for sharing your story and prayers. I hope you found it helpful to write about what it feels like when it feels like nobody cares. Jesus, thank you for being here with us. Thank you for loving us and blessing us with your presence — especially when we feel alone, sad, and like nobody cares.

Thank you for walking this earth and reaching out to us with love, grace, and compassion! You are One with our Father God, and we gratefully and humbly accept you. Holy Spirit, come and fill us with your wisdom, love, and warmth. Give us a strong sense of who You are, fill us with your power and joy so we can be a light in this dark world. Remind us to turn to You when we feel like nobody cares…and show us that Your presence is all we really need.

Help us to see that all the rest of the good stuff in this world — relationships, beauty, love, pets, delicious food, laughter, vacations, surprises fun experiences — are just icing on the cake. Amen, amen, and amen. Put yourself in control of your life. Start with something small. Buy yourself a present maybe. Brief description of the origins of these feelings: Abuse.

Physical, verbal, mental abuse, from my father. By the time she stepped in, I had turned I had been working out hard to defend myself, and it was too late, he was leaving her for another woman anyways. It was my tipping point, the moment I had been building my body and strength for. Today: I live alone in my own place, in a city across the country — have an okay job that allows me to live comfortably according to my needs, I have work acquaintaces but less than a handful of friends, none of which live near my city.

Personality wise no one would ever think I lived the life I have. I recently ended a 3 year long relationship with a good hearted woman, who also struggled with similar issues of her own. Throughout our relationship she reinforced that no one cares about me except her. Preface to the Dream: This is to give a bit of info so it can be understood easier.

Years ago 2 years before the recent girlfriend I was in a very respectable and high paying job that was intended to be my career. I fought long and hard to achieve it and overcame many obstacles. I was surrounded by what I realize now were fake friends and users. K, was amazing — had such a bubbly and outgoing personality, she was the center of attention at most events, she knew how to give just the right amount of care and affection.

I really enjoyed being around her and I cared for her so deeply; so it was incredibly confusing when she abandoned me. When I got laid off from my job at Christmas during that year, I watched all my friends and family aside my mother and brother leave my life. Forgetting to invite me out, or to acknowledge my presence at events, etc. K, as much as she meant to me before that, was also the first to go.

The calls stopped, the invites were forgotten, the talks and comfort I thought I had with her became non existent. Although the job loss was heartbreaking, for some reason her actions hurt me much more and stay with me, in the back of my mind to this day. These were the first of many heartbreaks that dropped me into a depression and complete isolation that took more than two years to work out of.

The Dream from today: The dream was reliving one of the abusive events in my life but as an older teenager rather than a child. It was mostly physical, with some verbal abuse thrown in. She was the same short height as K, same bubbly personality, same race and similar style of clothes, but a completely different face and lighter skin tone.

I would attempt to share with her what had just happened, because it was impacting me greatly.. This repeated a couple more times similarly, before I woke up drenched in a cold sweat. I immediately turned to my usual source of interaction; Google..

Also that He never leaves my side, and continues to show his presence in my life. It gives me strength, hope, and comfort. From Isaiah I hope it will help you the way it does for me:. Our lives have been very similar. I can relate to your soul.

I promise this. When you completely let go and watch God to present Your Way to you, you will find something better than you ever imagined. I am here. I rarely have time to check my email, weeks yet I was here tonight just for you! I read your post and it seems like you have the same fear I do the only difference is that I am married with kids and I feel like I should not be lonely.

How are you dealing with this? I too was abused physically and verbally. I am a stuffer. I shake, my chest hurts from the neck down. My body started shaking all over for about 5 minutes. But you know what, the anxiety in my chest area disappeared. I also had another session where I was to process the anger and rage suppressed for years. I am afraid of anger. My whole body fought it not my mind.

It was an actual fight within. I was grunting with physical pain in my abdomen. Weirdest feeling ever. My therapist said I will need 2 years of this since the trauma events were my whole childhood. I am currently going through a divorce thus the anxiety. I am seeing a psychotherapist and she has really helped maybe you can process your trauma with EMDR. I highly recommend it. When you internalize the trauma, it has no way to escape and you carry it with you always to which depression will set in.

Get help. You need to love yourself which I have to learn as well and I am learning. Think positive thoughts always. Happiness comes from within. I wish you the best. We will not be victims anymore!!!!!!! It takes a lot of courage and strength to share how you feel — especially when you feel like nobody cares about you! Thank you for being here. Remember that this is a temporary season of loneliness and isolation. It WILL pass, and you will feel happy and healthy again!

You will find your way back to yourself — especially if you find your faith. My prayer for you is for healing, and for you to find your way home. I Just wanted to thank you all for your comments — you helped someone tonight — me! I have my own business which aligns with my talents and passions but lately I struggle just to answer emails much less work on the projects my clients have paid me for.

There have been sad and bad seasons before and then there were happy seasons, so I know I just need to get through this and circumstances will change eventually. I asked for a prescription. Making me feel better already. I think that and knowing that this too shall pass might get me through. I hope you find something to help you get through.

After reading this I cherish the small tears hovering gently in the corner of my eyes as proof that I am alive and fully feeling my emotions. While we explored the frozen majestic beauty of Alaska I truly saw the coldness in their hearts towards me. Thank you dear Blossom. If you have anyone in your life who is critical or harming you then you need to distance yourself from them. There are psychopaths about. Most people, though, are not like that. They are just involved in their own family, lives etc.

Join classes, go for walks, do whatever you enjoy. I often eat lunch alone in a hotel by the sea. I do not suffer from depression. Well maybe a little bit sometimes. Actually the idea of a relationship causes me a slight degree of nausea. But nobody cares about me? The world is full of broken people.

In which case, that person will literally be surrounded by people who do not care about that person. The good news is that it is possible to have a wonderful life even though no one else cares about you. You can care about yourself. I have dogs. I have lived for a long time with the fantasy that I was loved. I know that HE blessed me with gifts and abilities, including a nature that will fight for the rights of a stranger as if it were my own fight.

I KNOW the gifts he gave me benefit many every day, in a way that lasts a lifetime for them. I know there are people who will always remember me for what I did for them. Anonymous March 26th, am. Caring about yourself should always be a priority, we easily spend a lot of our lives worrying about what people think of us, but all that truly matters is what we think of ourselves xxx. They care about you, a lot.

They're probably busy at the time or also going through a rough patch themselves. You don't need anyone to care for you. Yourself should be more than enough. No one can take care of you the way you'd do for yourself. In my experience when we feel this way, people do care about us but we are not able to see it and not because we don't want to but because we don't allow ourselves to.

Sometimes depression or other emotional states of distress cause us to interpret the actions of others in a way that fits the pre-existing beliefs we have about ourselves, and this may be why you believe that no one cares about you when in reality this is far from the objective truth. Sometimes though we become isolated from others and have not built up meaningful relationships or have experienced stigma for a range of reasons leading to the conclusion that no one cares.

No one?! AI care about you, I don't even know you and probably will never meet you. But I care about you, and maybe you don't see the people who cares. Anonymous December 24th, pm. People do care about you! You may not notice it but your family, friends, and people you don't even know care about you!

Anonymous January 24th, am. I've asked that question hundreds of times. I had a tendency to assume the worst from a normal goodbye. I assumed that whenever one person ends a conversation or says goodbye to me, I took it as a "oh ok you don't care about me. I still remember I used cry and hugged onto my mom's legs to stop her from walking, because I thought she was never coming back again Somewhere in the world someone cares about you even if you don't believe it.

I care about you and I don't know. Imagine how much the people who know you care about you. Talk to an expert therapist about depression. Related Questions: Why does no one care about me? What do you do when you have no passion or drive? My anxiety is getting worse and depression won't let me live my life, how do I overcome this?

I feel sad a lot, unmotivated, and I often can't stop crying for many hours. But I sleep and eat decently and I also can smile or laugh sometimes. Am I depressed or just sad? How to get things done professionaly at work when I'm very depressed? How do I keep myself from getting to attached to people? I am struggling with codependency and depression. I cannot afford therapy. What can I do to get help? How do I help explain to a parent that what I feel is valid after they reacted badly?

How can I open up to people more even if it scares me? I think I have depression and I want to tell my parents but my brother recently got diagnosed so I feel like they would think that I'm just trying to get attention. What do I do? Try Blah Therapy or 7 cups. During a mental health crisis, contact a suicide hotline. These are available through online chat and phones worldwide.

Look for your country at Befrienders. Keep a collection of happy memories. When you're depressed, it's hard to notice the positive events in your life. Hugs or supportive conversations may not even feel real to you, or you might forget them a few hours later. Keep these in a journal or box of papers. Add to this whenever someone sends you a happy message or does something nice for you. Read these over the next time you feel like no one cares about you. Expose yourself to happy sources of entertainment.

Watching sad movies and television shows are likely to have a negative effect on you. Try to avoid sources of entertainment that are negative or sad, such as the news, sad movies, and depressing TV shows. Instead, watch comedy movies, stand-up comics, and other things that make you laugh. Spend time with animals. Pets can be great allies during hard times, especially dogs. If you don't have a pet yourself, ask a friend or neighbor whether you can walk his dog or visit his cat.

Part 2. Understand your depression. If you often feel hopeless or worthless, you are probably depressed. This is a serious medical condition that needs treatment. The sooner you understand this, the sooner you can find support and improve your well-being. Click here to learn more signs of depression. Join a depression support group. The people in these groups share their experiences, encourage each other, and give advice on how to cope.

In the United States, search this map of support groups. There are many online support groups or depression forums as well, including the DBSA alliance, depression-understood. You may even want to look into Youtube channels that deal with depression. This can help you to find a community of people who are having similar experiences. Keep a journal. Take a few minutes each day to unload your thoughts and feelings on paper. Many people find they feel better if they get a chance to "share" private experiences in this way.

Over time, the journal can help you identify what affects your mood, and which coping mechanisms help or don't help.

End each entry with something you're grateful for. Remembering small things like a good cup of coffee or a stranger smiling at you can boost your mood. Make healthy lifestyle changes. Forcing yourself to stick to a regular schedule can help your mood, though this can take a few weeks to kick in. Try to get enough sleep each night, and get up and dressed each morning. Leave the house for at least a short walk. Eating a healthy diet and exercising regularly can lead to a major mood boost.

While they may make you feel better in the short term, they often make it harder to fight your depression. Overcome your addiction with professional help if necessary.

Seek therapy. Therapy is an effective treatment for depression, recommended by many experts and organizations. You might need to try out several therapists before you find one that you are comfortable with. Give it time to work. Many people visit a therapist weekly for six to twelve months. Consider medication. A psychiatrist can prescribe medication to manage depression, but keep in mind that this is only a temporary solution.